New research suggests that the most effective executives use a collection of distinct leadership styles-each in the right measure, at just the right time. Such flexibility is tough to put into action, but it pays off in performance. And better yet, it can be learned and not be born like "Raja ko Chora Paras Rajai huncha" message by the underlying Hindu Priest Caste of Nepal.

Firstly. let us consider Emotional Intelligence: A Primer

Emotional Intelligence- the ability to manage ourselves and our relationships effectively-consists of four fundamental capabilities: self awareness, self management, social awareness, and social skill. Each capability, in turn, iscomposedof specfc sets of competencies. Below is a list of the capabilities and their corresponding traits.

Self-Awarness

* Emotional self-awareness: the ability to read and understand your emotions as well as recognize their impact on work perforfance, relationships, and the like.

* Accurate self-assessment: a realistic evaluation of your strenghts and limitations.

* Self-confidence: a strong and positive sense of self-worth.

Self-Management

* Self-control: the ability to keep disruptive emotions and impulses undercontrol.

* Trustworthiness: a consistent display of honesty and integrity.

* Conscientiousness: the ability to manage yourself and your responsibilities.

* Adaptability: skill at adjusting to changing situations and overcoming obstacles.

* Achievement orientations: the drive to meet an international standard of excellence.

* Intitiative: a readiness to seize opportunities.

Social Awareness

* Empathy: skill at sensing other people's emotions, understanding their perspective, and taking an active interest in their concerns.

* Organizational awareness: the ability to read the currents of organizational life build decsion networks, and navigate politics.

* Service orientation: the ability to recognize and meet customers'needs.

Social Skill

* visionary leadership: the ability to take charge and inspire with compelling vision.

* Influence: the ability to weild a range of pursuasive tactics.

* developing others: the propensity to bolster the abilities to others through feedback and guidance.

* Communication: skill at listening and sending clear, convincing, and well-tuned messages.

* Change catalyst: proficiency in initiating new ideas and leading people in new direction.

* Conflict management: the ability to de-escalate disagreements and orchestrate resolutions.

* Building bonds: proficiency at cultivating and maintaining a web of relationships.

* Teamwork and collaboration: competence at promoting cooperation and building teams.

DOES NEPAL OR ANY OTHER NEPALESE ORGANIZATIONS HAVE THESE QUALITIES IN THEIR LEADERS BASED ON ASCRIPTION AND NOT MERIT?

Nepal Tara,

Good points !!

I don't think ANY NEPALESE ORGANIZATIONS HAVE THESE QUALITIES IN THEIR LEADERS. That's why Nepal's situation is so screwed up.

Prem Charo
Hawaii :)

dont expect these all qualities in one persone, n as ur point to self assessment, how would u like to evaluate urself in comparision with the rest of the nepalis(inc.the leader of the organizations or even leaders specifically).
R we in any postion to evaluate others just becoz we got to know abt the theory someone else has prepared..how logic is it to view things from the keyhole when the whole door is of glass.So lets not say that we dont have intelligent people or leaders it may be just the phase of time that may not be right..:) cheers

You might be self styled sense or Japanese SENSE SAN. What matters are self reflection and assessment for quality development of self enriches humanity like being close to being a real Buddha like Neta. That is all about GROW ing andd transparency and accountability and closer to true but not utopian democracy that Nepal needs through republic movement. We need to make leaders that are el stupido and arrogant based on ascription today bali ko boka for a better Nepal. Otherwise, you are not Japanese Zen Sense San. Why? You go to the tea ceremony and talk about your version of Catholic or Christain sense and while the Japanese Sense was pouring tea in your cup it is over flowing. you point out to the Zen Sense and say "You are over flowing my tea cup." The Zen Sense will reply "So are you over-flowing your-self with irrelevant qausi and non-sensical talks that contains narcissism and quasi intellectualism that is highly toxic to others and full of harm to others."

That is my message to you Sense or Sense San.

Sayonara for being not Ichiban! Bonzai!

Nepal Tara,


I understood that you read books, do search in internet but you may have not realise that there are lot others who do the same.
majority of your posting are abstract from books, either from human resource (managemnet, leadership, self improvement etc) or from sometraditional teachings, but..
but you forgot to realise that these books and teachings are there, in one or the other form, for many years, and ppl are reading it and some ppl even say that they are practiciing it
No one has become leader by reading a book "How to become a leader "or somthing like that (may be there are few exception, who knows) and no one has become great person by following the teaching (because it is not possible to follow the traditional teaching in its entire).Real Leader may not have enough time to go through these things.

It also seems that you havnt realise the difference between western ledership requirement, necessity and the traditional eastern teaching (if you go deep you will find that they contradict each other, eastern teaching says be thoughtful, be calm, share whereas western teaching, in practice, says be aggressive, grab the things and protect your might)
The points you are coating from books are for the intelligent ppl to manage the subordnates in companies or in a structured environment, it is worthless to discuss here in detail because this is not "School of Managemnet) and you seem to be addicted to those books (because addicted person always thinks she/he is right, no matter what).

May be you are relatively new in this field and when you find those books and some eastern traditional teaching with english explanation you became happy like a child who gets the chocolate and started to post in sajha to educate the ppl.

It also looks like that most of the posting, you made here, you have not applied to yourself first (to apply somthing on oneself is very difficult than to give "Upadesh" to others isnt it) otherwise you shouldnt have used the words you are using in your post.
Anyway reading books is good and and reading easter teaching is also good, but they can not be practiced in real life as it is (may be you will realise it later), practice is somthing which you have to learn yourself thats why ppl may have said life is like a school , you learn every day.
Well ppl say truth is bitter, some ppl accept it some dont but that is not my business.
enjoy the life

See dear dash dash,

I am a practising manager and also a researching manager and I love scanning the uncontrollable environment from culture, politics, law, infrastructures, finance, technology, environment, socio-economic issues andmuch more. being involved in International/Global business, Cross-cultural mangement and marketing is very different than just domestic business and managemnt issues.

In this sense I have to consider my strategies 24*7 to have sustainable competitive advantage over other compeition through my strategic leadership, core competencies and value chain propositions and much more to get above average returns and make all stakeholders satisfied to maintain brand equity, cutomer satisfaction and loyal and much much more.

I have been doing this even before you were born. Let me tell you that we Asians are fatalistic and think in circular logic in contrast to western logic of logic and rationality and linear time frame. Asians value ascription to that of merit in the west, Asian love stratified society to that of western of egalitarianism but this is extreme example and all things have continuum from one extreme to other. Asians are paternalistic to that of Nordic countries being feministic. Asians love collectivism in corast to westerners being individualistic and competition is the way to go. Asians do not like ambiguous situation in contrast to westerners being comfortable with such situation and much more. these generalisations come from empirical evidence and has limtations. However, it canteach us something.

So think cool before you say something. Reflect what you have said it and get the feedback and that is social learning as part of life long learning to be better every day as we GROW and not CROW.

Nepal tara,

Thanks for the comment, this time you are more realistic except in one case " I have been doing this even before you were born". simply because you dont know my age.

Just to add few more lines about Oriental and Occidental behavior and thinking,
ppl from orient are relatively introvert than the ppl from occident, and, I have seen highly knowledegable person form orient working under the less knowledgeable person from occident in the same field, just because they are introvert.

This is happeneing in practice at present also. Our southern neighbour are proud of being specialist in software and the money they are making out of it. but they havnt realise that they are working like a "karinda " for western company and getting peanut out of it. Otherwise national foreign currency reserve of our southern neighbour 125B$ (source , the economist, issue, i forgot) and MSFT has total cash reserve of 60B$ (I read this data 3 months ago).
They are just like a farmers who work hard sell their product cheap and middle man makes most of the profit. By giving this example neither I am trying to side myself to this or that nor I am saying they should not have done that. As long as they are happy, who am I to interfere?

Likewise, our northeren neighbour, are proud of their hardware industry and their deposit of foreign currency (more than 400B$) but the entire country has become like a factory for occidental companies.
PPl from occident are relatively less creative and love to work in structured environment rather than creating own environment. above mentioned real life example adds to that.

My purpose of giving this real life example is just to show that how effectively and creatively westerners uses the resource available around the world.

Boasting, creating false impression to get the lead is quiet usual in so call "western culuture", and I think this explains their colonial past.
And, I do not know wheather this is wrong or right. If I say wrong, then I have to accept the situation where the intelligence of our northern and southern neighbour
go waste and it would have been difficult for ordinary ppl to buy a desktop.

and, If I say right, the some ppl may say well, that is exploitation.

Dear dash,

It is true that i do not know your personhood. Thus, I have to assume I was born before you. You can correct me if i am wrong and that is the point of feedback and I can know you better or vice versa.

See the theory of trade policy works fo China and India as they have comparative advantage in cheap consumer goods and specially india has a niche market that has comparative and absolute advantage in software manufacturing and back office support service sector. On the other hand, advance economies like USA has comparative and absolute advatage in highly capital intensive industries they deem highly strategic.

However, the Western nations are hypocrites as they stultify free trade by giving subsidies and blocking poor nations agricultural exports by high tariffs and and other non tariff barriers like environmental standards or other child labour issues and much more. Where is the justice just based on economic theory. Should the rich nation not provide compensation to the poor when their industries get lost through the due process of globalisation? Alternatively too that China should provide compensation to the rich nation's increasing poor for the lost industries, so the workers can retrain and rehabilitate themselves in emerging industries. This is all utopia don't you think so!

Asian countries are not smart like Western countries based on fundamental innovation and diffusion. Asians are good in copy cat innovativeness and reengineering. Asians like to stael patents from the West. That is the problem we Asians don't value ideas of others and only want to choro. That is also the problem of China and India as they are not pure market economy. India and China has still elements of Centrally Planned Economy.

If China wants to be USA then it needs over US $ 3.6 trillion dollars just to upgrade its infrastructures. Where will it get that kind of money? So China will never eber be USA in quality of life terms. It has over US $ 500 billion bad debt problems and most banks are in the verge of collapse. India just needs over US $ 650 billion to mdernise its total crumbling infrastructure. So what it has US $ 125 billion? It may take another fifty to sixty years from Software industry to save its disgusting infrastructures. the question is where is the money coming from to pay for all the goodies to get total benefit of globalisation. CHINA gets annually FDI about US $ 45 billion and India hardly gets FDI over US $ 10 billion.

So there you have it hypocrisy all over.

I have tried to be balanced in terms of the debate between the North and the South bilatral, plurilateral and multilaterla talkfest. No wonder all kinds of lesser educated ones are so parochial in seeing the faceless GLOBALISATION MONSTER. Thus, the pritest all over in many many issues.

G-7, G-9, G20 and many GREATER $$$$$$$$ Wallahs could do something for humanity "but for" their polity they cannot. You see the link in terms of war, trade and aid money at the hands of Neo-Cons of USA and directed by the JEWS inside USA.

some questions, what makes us think that west is better than asia(east), why is economy, n power the measurements of greatness of any country? n why r there persons who just go to west from asia n did something makes him feel that he is the king of the world n he is in the position to evaluate others in terms of is own ideology. I am a marketting manager doesnt mean that I know every other field equally, my knowledge to one field may be better than other but knowledge is far from saturation so be sure u r never in a situation to evaluate some others ...u can advise if the others ask for it ...but to say 'merai goru ko barai takka' is nothing more than meer foolishness.

Your logic of functional manager of marketing makes you very parochial only to implement MAHA MARKETING STRATEGY created by others and you will never be welcome in the CORPORATE DOMAIN.

That is reality for you my bro as I am a team player and a lateral and flexible leader as I lead life and love. Why? Because, the world is my Oyster. Why? Because, it is there and I have been ripen with experience and have the global education that you cannot even dream of. To be east is east and west is west and in globalisation some few points are converging throug synegies and most are diverging to cave age days all over based on parochialism.

My bro the world is open to you and i have no answer to your questions and as an experience, nothing in this world is good or bad. It is our biases and nothing that we can do to get rid of it. Only that we can be aware of it and thinkof implications that we may not harm others.

Good Luck.

sense you make great sense. i hope nepal_tara realizes that all his advise is "the supreme truth" to only himself.

nepal_tara my truth and my understanding of life is different than yours and there is not just one way. don't try to espouse your beliefs onto others and don't even think of proselytizing.

mG.

MG,

I respect who you are and emphasise that I like just the way you are from the day you were born from your mum's tum tum. It would not be you if you followed what I tell you to be. Thay way your wife and mum will always will love you just the way you are. No.

I remember the story told to me by the naked market gardener from Troubriand Island.

A Oz company sent the shoe sales man to investigate the sale of shoe there. The young sales whiz was very disappointed to seethe natives bare foot. He wrote back saying "there is no possibility to sale any shoes in the island as all are bare foot." Thenhe caught the next plane back to Ozland.

The Chief Executive was not so sure and he went to the island to play golf. On seeing the natives bared footed he saw a great vision that he could provide shoes to all the natives of the island by counter trade. That is provide 30% of the population free shoes then ask another 30% of the population for shoes and be paid by coconuts and fish, and ask the 40% of the population that could pay in local Kina for the shoes. You see from that time the islanders are very loyal to Oz shoes. This is the moral of the story in different perspective of different people.

Choice is yours if i pursuaded you or not as you cannot weigh up that is beneficial to your needs.

That is all.

Take it or leave it.

PS: Why are you sometime saying I make sense and next that I am non sense. be consistent.

Nepal tara ji,

watching Napoleon; a documentary from AE. I learned a lot about what leadership entails. Going back to age-old theories on it:

leaders are born and not made???
Leaders are what they are ???

A.S.O

you are lost in the forest. But not you all alone, there are scores other who are following you on this venture. What do you do?

Ask your best man to go atop a tree and figure your way out?
nope, get yourself atop a tree and figure out a way?

yeap, the true leader would get atop a tree himself and figure out a way. Why? Because, you are a leader. And not a management. That is the difference between a leader and a manager.

To quote Sachin Tendulkar very recently, the more time you spend in the middle the more you learn. That is the total idea of being a leader.

And that is what I saw in Napoleon who for most part is misunderstood. Like most great minds are. What's new?

Uhi Rajeev,
CT, Amrika

Ranjiv Bhai,

I see what you and your quotes are? By the way I do not know a thing about Mr. Sanjay Shrestha and his Correlation Coefficient Statistical significance materially. Actually, I have been a critic of Ashoke Rana, Prithivi Pandey, Gautam Rana, Sangeeta Thapa and all the she bang as a Professional in the field of international business and management. They follow the path of Guan Xi Wang like relationship and reciprocity based on old Asian traditional values and I totally am different that is based on merit and individual pursuit to accomplish goals. Then again I am a loner and love any good competition to innovate to get back above avaerage returns in any pursuit.

Let me get focus.

What is leadership?

Common themes:

Leadership is a group phenomenon, involving the interaction between two or more persons

* Leadership is the ability to influence a group toward the achievement of goals. The source of this influence may be

* formal and
* informal

leadership includes influence processes involving determination of the group's organisational objectives, motivating task behaviour in pursuit of these objectives, and influencing group maintenance and culture (Yukl, 1989).

What's an ideal leader?

Somebody who can develop a vision of what he or she wants their business unit, their activity to do or be. Somebody who is able to articulate to the entire unit what the business is, and gain through a sharing of discussion-listening and talking-an acceptance of the vision. And someone who then can relentlessly drive implementation of that vision to a successful conclusion.

- Jack Welch, CEO of General Electric

Managers Vs. Leaders

Managers

Planning and budgeting
establising detailed steps and timetables for achieving results. Allocating the resources necessary to make that happen.

Leaders

Establishing direction
a vsion for the future and srategies for producing changes to achieve this vision.

Managers

Organising and staffing
establishing structure to implement plans, staffing that structure with individuals, delegating authority and responsibility, providing policies and procedures to guide people and creating mrthods and systems to monitor implementation.

Leaders

Aligning people
communicating the direction by words and deeds to all those whose cooperation may be needed so as to influence the creation of teams and coalitions that understand the vision and strategies and accept their validity.

Managers

Controlling and problem solving
monitoring results, identifying deviations, planning and organising to solve these problems. Produces a degree of predictability to consistenly produce key results.

Leaders

Motivating and inspiring
energising people to overcome major barriers to change by satisfying basic, but often unfulfilled, human needs. roduces change, and has the potential of producing extremely useful change.

Let us recognize the parts of "Leadership" and analyze them...

What makes one leader a leader are his people. If a leader knows how to handle his or her multitude, he or she is effective. A leader can either use an iron fist, or can use the delegative method of leadership, in which the leader is working hand-in-hand with his or her follower.

Leadership has has many parts to it. First of all is POWER. What kind of power the leader posesses over his or her subjects might be one of the most important things a leader can have.

Power has its sub divisions too. 1. Heiarchial power (the power Paras posesses over the Nepalese people), 2. Coercive power (the one of fear--ex. Saddam Hussein when he was in power), 3. Reward power (the ability to give rewards-- ex. a US Senetor visiting Nepal) and 4. Expert Power (the expertise in the field-- ex the elected effective leaders...such as Vladmir Putin of Russia or the German cancellor whose name I cannot recall at this present moment).

Well, the second part to Leadership would be influence. It can either be directive (when the followers are inexperienced or are incapable of fulfilling the task); supportive (when the followers are experienced, but are still incapable of fulfilling the task, due to circumstances when one DEMANDS for a leader) and delegative (when followers are experienced AND can fulfill the task).

That defined leadership.

Now what a "How to be an Effective Leader in 10 Days". I just know how to define leadership.

All I know is that the basic responsibilities of a leader are "to accomplish the task and take care of the followers" the second one being more important.

Doctor Bee

Nepal tara wrote,

"I am a practising manager and also a researching manager and I love scanning the uncontrollable environment from culture, politics, law, infrastructures, finance, technology, environment, socio-economic issues andmuch more being involved in International/Global business, Cross-cultural mangement and marketing is very different than just domestic business and managemnt issues."

Oh my..what the heck is that? Nepal tara, you do make a great comic if you can also read all the rubbish you write.

Hsamdamji,

If you knew that I know then the world would better place through synergies and value creation. You do not even know what creative destruction is to bring about disruption of the existing parctices and processes of people in order to bring change incrementally through innovation. That is all.

BEE DOC

You have not solved your paradox of small penis dysfunction and big brain function. It follows from there that you wearing different leaders hat in different situation would be like the story of a Weiwolf....woof woof woof. No!

I agree with Badmaash. Nepal Tara...did we eat idioticy for dinner today? How are my ideas related to that at all? And how the heck can you infer the size of an organ that is personal? I thought you were more sensible than that. I guess I was wrong.

Doctor Bee

BEE DOC

The inference you have made so far deductively, inductively, corollarily, assumption wise, by experiment, by hypothesis or otherwise on the topic of leadership was not logical and was irrational and not backed by empirical generalisation, examples or by any evidentiary material or other wise. I do respect your value judgment on the topic.

In sum, I stand by what I have said and seen.

Not much difference between a a genius and an idiot. It is only the issue of borderline case.

Ladies and Gentelmen,

Good morning.

It is my personal opinion that we should continue discussion only when it is fruitfull, otherwise we will be going nowhere like a "kuhiroo ma harayeeko kaag". While posting somthing and reacting over it, we must be carefull wheather it is constructive or not if we consider oursleves a mature, thoughtfull and constructive debeater.
When I participate in debate anywhere I never think that I must win the debate, or I know better than others. I know, nobody knows everything. Neither it is possible to know everything nor it is NECESSARY to know everything.

I also differentiate myself and the subject of the debeate so that it does not hurt me to withdraw from the discussion as I do in my real life.
In real life I always separate problems and myself. I always mount, logical and full force assult to the best of my knowledge, on problems that I have to solve and if I fail I dont feel defeated becasue myself and problem are two different things.

and, I also beleive that problems are there because there are solutions, a problem without a solution is not a problem but fact.
Now,

A real leader effectively utilises all the resourece at his disposal, a real leader needs all type of personalities in his team because different personalities contribute in different way so there is always possibility of check and balance. So to be a Leader that gets results she/he must know how to direct different personality in his team to reach the goal. She/he must not felt threatened by different personalities, different approach/idea/philosophy toward the goal in the team. If she/he is able to dirrect everybody toward the goal its fine, like ppl used to say in olden days "you dont worry, every roads goes to Rome."

One very interesting question asked to me during an interview was "now ctiticize yourself" I had to criticize myself during the inteview, I beleive I successfully did that because I got the job.
let us give a acid test to our comments before posting it, lets us criticize ourselves before critisizing others. We dont need to be a leader to critisize others everyone can do that.

My purpose of posting all these is, we must be able to accept different personalities, because we are different.

cheers,
enjoy the life